Speaking out the trivialities of life is satisfying. Small talk is after all, the most common talk. It is the lubricant, the filler, the appetizer accompanying the entree of social interaction. It is safe. The weather is safe. There is no option of opinion with weather. In the social game of Never Offend, the weather is a green zone, the weather is Switzerland.
This conscious quelling of verbal panache has led many of us to talk small and only small. We forget, whether it be on a date, a round of golf, or over a beer, that there are complex, titillating subjects waiting to be digested. We have become satiated, our minds have grown a penchant for regaling each other about the absolute spot-on color of the menus! Giggle giggle…
Small talk is no talk. It is necessary but, if anyone can do it, what is being seen, what is being shown? Dive into a topic that leads somewhere. Force yourself and your company into an intellectual meeting of the minds. Healthy, deep conversation does not mean a debate yet, fear not the line of offense! Furthermore, force yourself to pause for that perfect word, the word that you last saw on the SATs you so assiduously, so scrupulously studied for.
Remember, gossip is far lower than small talk and has no place in conversation. It is a cavernous mess of insecurities and negativity that should never be breached.